Until about a month ago, I walked 120 miles to see my children every two weeks. Why? Because although I have a valid license I simpily can’t afford a car. As I said yesterday, I live with a disabled couple for my food and room so I don’t make a huge deal of money, I really don’t need to. Instead I walk. I haven’t owned a car in over 2 years.
Instead I have learned that I don’t need material possessions to be happy. I don’t have to go out and buy things and own things to be a happy person. Actually I think possessions cloud real world issues. People are to concerned with what they own and don’t stop to realize owning things will not make you happy at all.
This is one of the biggest reasons I don’t get allong with my family (or they don’t get along with me rather). I don’t have to live a traditional life of waking up each day to go to a job I hate just to make money I don’t need to buy things I don’t want. I don’t need money to have a roof over my head. I don’t need money to have food on my table. I don’t need money to know God (in fact it helps to NOT have money). I don’t need material things.
And what of my kids. How do I provide for them? First let me say, this is where people are really going to dislike my beliefs and unless they continue reading this site for an extended period of time, they likely will hate me after this post. So how do I provide for my kids? I manage, thats how. I make a little bit of money off my websites to help pay for things like birthday presents, clothes, and the likes. Other then that, my kids have a roof over their head, and they have food on their table every night.
Would it be better for me to get a regular job and let my kids come live with me? Most people think yes. I don’t. Why? I’ll explain. If I didn’t have a great family who took care of each other I would say yes I need a job to provide for my child. However my family makes sure that the NEEDS (food shelter water…) are taken care of. I don’t have to do that. Instead I can focus on teaching my kids the RIGHT things about life.
I would rather have my kids focusing on God. I would rather them know that owning things does nothing for you in life. It doesn’t take stress away from existance, it adds to it. The more money you make, the more you spend, the more you spend, the more you want. The more you want the more you work. And what about God? What about the fact we are here to worship him, to follow his laws and rules? Well that gets forgotten.
Thats what I want my kids to see in me; someone who doesn’t walk the easy path of life, someone who walks against the world and its modern “must conform” societial laws. I want them to see the path to god is by NOT conforming and doing what everyone else is doing.
“Give to ceasar that which is ceasars”
Money means nothing. God doesn’t care about money. He cares about life. He cares about health. He cares about love. But does he care if you do it by spending money? Nope the barder system works well also. Does he care if you own a car and drive instead of walk? Nope (although he does care about the pollution it causes the world).
The point is, I refuse to do the normal mans idea of “hold a job” to provide. Its not only needed but a burden on you. It causes you not to have time to think about God and his wishes at all times. Instead it causes one to focus on what they can do with all this money. It causes them to be to busy to have time for God, religion, worship, or any of the things that REALLY matter.
Why is it in todays world a man and a woman sleep for 8 hours, work for 8 hours, spend one to two hours driving to and from work, a half hour to an hour to eat lunch at work, and then only have about 4 to 5 hours for their children? Isn’t loving your children and being with them, raising them and teaching them, far more important then the money?
Yes to me society is very wrong, not me. However to society (and that includes almost everyone) I am very wrong and they are right. Funny God warned of this day!

I am a religious person, but I don’t hide behind my religion and make excusses as to why I shoulden’t work. It is not God providing you with a roof over your head. It is a disabled couple providing your roof and your food. How very disfunctional it must be for the children knowing that dad is too lazy to get off his butt and get a proper paying job, to take care of his own basic need. It is good to have a religion, but hey get real. Your not in heaven where all your needs are met, your on this earth. Show your children you have a little backbone and quit preaching about quality time with kids. Children learn from parents, and from where I sit I see a poor excuse of a dad saying, sit at home, spend what little time he can with the kids, and god will take care of the rest. Grow up, get real. Face it you are a sponge.
By: diane on May 7, 2008
at 7:26 pm
As I stated, I expected to get such responses. Its typical of those who don’t trust in God. You claim you are a religious person (so do most christians who are clueless), so I quote matthew, mark, luke, AND john. You say it is I who am wrong? In fact, it is you who does not truely believe in the words of the bible, of Christ, and of God. I am not hiding, I am doing just the opposite.
“And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.” Matthew 21:22
“I say to you: if you ask the Father any thing in my name, he will give it you. Hitherto, you have not asked any thing in my name. Ask, and you shall receive; that your joy may be full.” John 16:23-24
“And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” Luke 11:9-10
“Therefore I say to you, What things soever you desire, when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you shall have them.” Mark 11:24
Also, why is it that its no problem when someone goes out and gets a job on a farm for no pay except room, board, and a small amount of spending cash but not when it happens in some other feild of interest? I have a job. I take care of two elderly people who would otherwise be in a nursing home and lose custody of their 13 year old! My pay is my room and board. I don’t see how this makes me a “sponge”.
Its not dysfunctional for my children at all. In fact, just the opposite is true. My kids are beginning to understand that whatever they ask of God, He will deliver so long as they believe whole heartedly in him and trust completely in him. One need not be in heaven (in fact most who “survive” judgement day will never be in heaven but shall inherit the earth), one just need ask and have faith in God. He doesn’t reign over heaven, he reigns over everything!
I have a huge backbone there sweetheart. I can assure you of that, or else I would never openly admit such things. I expected to be ridiculed by those who half heartedly believe in God. I expected to be ridiculed by those who don’t understand the rules of God. I expected to be ridiculed by those who are so conformed to society that they can’t imagine life any other way.
Thank God children learn from parents, because I wouldn’t trust anyone else to teach my kids the ways of God. I would rather my kids know that some of the most miserable people in the world have tons of money (just look at the multi-millionaire Brittney Spears). Money doesn’t mean happiness, it doesn’t mean survival, and it has no effect whether a person is a good person or a bad person.
You think I am a poor excuse for a dad? I think most of the world has become poor excuses of people. If a hungry man came banging on your door looking for food, you would likely tell them “get off your ass and get a job”… not “sure I’ll help”. Now what if that man at your doorway is God? You would have just turned him away!
By: ShatteredSoul on May 8, 2008
at 3:15 pm
hello..I’m back here..mind if I add this page to my blog roll? would appreciate if you could take time to visit me back…would love to hear from you..have a good day and have fun blogging! Takecare you all her..
By: nancy on May 8, 2008
at 5:09 pm